WHEN I WERE A LAD…
I recently saw a television programme on regional TV called “The Way We Were”. This particular programme was about how we used to spend our holidays, way back then, like.
For some reason, it got me thinking about my Dad. And I had a flash back to my earliest memories of family holidays.
Aye. Off we’d all go, t’ seaside. Our transport AND accommodation was my Dad’s trusty
I can see my Dad now, stiff as yer like, getting out of the car at crack of dawn, opening boot, and lighting the trusty primus stove to boil kettle so he could have hot shave in t’ wing mirror. Then, magically, he’d proceed to cook a full English breakfast for five of us on a single flame primus stove. How did he manage that?
The smell of bacon cooking in the cool morning air!!! And the taste! Wow!
Then it was back down t’ beach for more sandcastles and donkey rides.
That, was really living!
Then, when time came, we’d pack up car and head back home …to our cardboard box at bottom of lake.
Aye. Tell that t’ kids today and they’ll never believe you.
(My lot certainly don’t believe me, they think it’s perfectly normal to spend £12-15k on a family holiday – just wait till they have to pay for themselves!)
But it’s true, that’s how we spent our summer holidays back then, until we discovered caravans!
Why am I telling you this…?
Oh yes. I remember.
I wanted to talk about my dear old Dad. And the most important lesson he ever taught me, other than how to cook a full English breakfast out of the boot of a car.
You see, my Dad was a grafter. A welder by trade, and if he wasn’t doing overtime at the factory, he was cutting someones’ hedge or lawn to make a few extra quid – so that we could have fitted carpets, or Meccano for Christmas.
Nobody cuts a hedge as straight and true as my dear old Dad!
So he taught me the work ethic and how not to be afraid of that important four letter word: W-O-R-K.
(That’s why he had me doing my own paper round at the age of four! Boy was that bag heavy!)
But here’s what he really taught me…
Because he was always working – and I do mean ALWAYS – we never really saw too much of him, certainly not as much as we would have liked. Nor did my poor old Mum. Dad was always working! But there she was, every evening, waiting for him with a great big hug and a cooked meal on the table.
I can hear Dad saying it now…
“Don’t worry Mary, we’ll have plenty of time to spend together when I’ve retired, that’s why I’m working so hard – so then we can enjoy ourselves”.
Sadly, my Mum passed away - suddenly and unexpectedly - at the age of 59.
They never did go on days out together…
They never did the things they said they would do…
That was 25 years ago.
My Dad still carries that grief.
And he still carries all that guilt, of never being there.
BUT IT’S TOO LATE!!
That’s the biggest lesson my Mum and Dad ever taught me:
…to NEVER make the same mistake!
I'll do the OPPOSITE! Life’s not a rehearsal! Go live it!
More important! My Mum & my Dad are the very reason why I got INSPIRED to tell my clients the 'Truth About Money' and remind them, that life is NOT a rehearsal. Without knowing it, they inspired me to be a better Financial Planner! They were the very reason behind me asking my clients“You only have so long on this planet, so what do you want to do – before it’s too late?”
Life is NOT a rehearsal. FACT.
Precious time IS slipping away. FACT.
Time IS speeding up the older you get! FACT.
So what do YOU want to do, before it’s too late?
And what about your clients? Are YOU asking them this question? Are YOU talking to them about what REALLY matters?
I do hope so. That’s when our job (as Financial Planners) comes alive!
And clients love it! (Pssst. No one else is talking to them about this stuff! ;-)
“Never let your clients say “if only” – the only real regrets people have are the things they DIDN’T do! It’s your job to remind them of this!”
It’s called ‘telling clients the truth about money’.
So there you have it.
If you’ve ever wondered why I keep harping on about the present moment, about life NOT being a rehearsal, and why I keep nagging you to remind your clients of this FACT day in, day out – perhaps now you can understand why.
One life. Live it.